Anita. She Made a Difference.

Roses and Flowers, Aita

“Boil the H…2…O, remove the exoskeleton,” she said. “It was her scientific response for a shrimp and linguini recipe,” her son Peter said at the eulogy.

My sister-in-law Anita’s life came to a swift end at too early an age. Her funeral last week was an extraordinary honor.

Boil the H…2…O, remove the exoskeleton…“My mother wanted me to be sure to follow the recipe.”
Well, after all, Anita was a science teacher and she did everything…from being a mother, wife, relative, friend and teacher…the right way. Ever the educator, whether by direction or by example, she took the time to explain. Ever a friend, she was at your side to help.
Anita knew no other way. Though it was no surprise to see hundreds at the wake…the wait in line was two hours… it still amazed us. “I can’t believe it. They just keep coming.”

As I chatted that evening with Anita and Peter’s friends and relatives, I realized that they all communicated the same theme…. “We were with them just a week, just two weeks, just three weeks, etc. ago. I heard from her just yesterday, just a few days ago, etc.”
Anita and Peter never forgot. They stayed in touch. They were brother and sister to all.

There were many moments for tears, but the travel to the cemetery hit me hardest.
From church to cemetery was forty miles, more than half of it on busy route 95 through the center of Providence. We witnessed something none of us had ever seen before. The funeral director from Nardolillo’s, anticipating the size of the cortege, saw fit to ask the Providence Police for help.
They did more than just help. In their wisdom, they closed route 95. For Anita. Closed route 95. The funeral cortege of more, many more than fifty cars, traveled unimpeded for miles along 95.

A tribute to a teacher, mother, wife, friend, relative; a tribute to a person who lived a Christian life with honor, dignity and  concern for others. Even battling an unrelated injury for the recent six months, she stayed in touch, she thought of others more than herself.

“They got it right when they stopped the traffic,” someone said. “They finally got it right.”

Yes, Anita, they did, because you did. You got it right.

“Boil the water, remove the exoskeleton.”

Thank you, Anita. We will.

By | 2017-07-10T16:10:11+00:00 July 2nd, 2015|Family, Iannuccilli|24 Comments


  1. Elise Carlson July 3, 2015 at 11:09 am - Reply

    Please accept my condolences, and those of the Johnston Historical Society. What a wonderful life to have, to be appreciated by so many.

    • Ed July 3, 2015 at 12:07 pm - Reply

      Thank you, Elise

  2. Nicole July 3, 2015 at 8:42 pm - Reply

    Beautifully written, for a beautiful woman.

    • Ed July 4, 2015 at 1:29 am - Reply

      Thank you, Nicole. Great lady.

  3. Mike Neri July 6, 2015 at 2:29 pm - Reply

    Can you imagine how well organized Heaven is right now with all the loose ends finally put in proper order. She was a Saint for the times. God can sit back and relax now that Anita has arrived.

    • Ed July 6, 2015 at 4:16 pm - Reply

      Beautiful. Thanks, Mike

  4. Ron Behm July 6, 2015 at 3:13 pm - Reply

    Reading this made me cry, again. Having been there, I cried , having heard of her passing made me cry, and thinking about what a beautiful person she was to all, makes me cry. Some tears of selfish sadness that we don’t have her guidance and presence any longer, but many from the joy of having had her in our lives . She touched so many and will always be in our hearts and minds. She was a wonderful person, and we were all blessed to call her our friend.

    • Ed July 6, 2015 at 4:16 pm - Reply

      Thank you, Ron. I cannot agree more.

  5. marilyn a. foehr July 6, 2015 at 3:30 pm - Reply

    What a beautiful legacy! More than folks who live much longer in years. May God give your family comfort as they keep this remarkable woman in their hearts! Prace!

    • Ed July 6, 2015 at 4:18 pm - Reply

      Thank you, Marilyn. You are so kind to write. Anita has left a legacy.

  6. Gene and Sandy Gasbarro July 6, 2015 at 7:54 pm - Reply

    Sandy and I were very sad to hear of Anita’s passing. We send our heartfelt sympathies to Peter and his family and of course to you and your family.

    Gene and Sandy Gasbarro

    • Ed July 6, 2015 at 11:57 pm - Reply

      Thank you Sandy and Gene. I will let Peter and his Family know of your kind words and thoughts

  7. Cynthia and Billy Bucci July 6, 2015 at 8:58 pm - Reply

    So sorry for your loss What a wonderful tribute to a wonderful woman

    • Ed July 6, 2015 at 11:58 pm - Reply

      Than you, Cynthia and Billy

  8. Howard Weldon July 7, 2015 at 7:27 pm - Reply

    A beautifully written tribute to a special lady that touched many lives and touchrd their hearts in a spirituality inspired love.

    • Ed July 7, 2015 at 9:26 pm - Reply

      Thank you, Howard

  9. Stephan Brigidi July 9, 2015 at 11:28 am - Reply

    No one can explain or understand another person’s path. It always perplexes and saddens me when a wonderful soul is suddenly removed from our lives. We are shaken and left to mourn, but it also brings us together in the bonds of love. Our outrage at what seems so unjust gives way to love and peace in its own time. Let us send blessings to the family that feels the loss so great, and blessings to ourselves in memory of a great lady.

    • Ed July 9, 2015 at 10:35 pm - Reply

      Beautiful thoughts, beautifully written. Thank you, Steve. Anita would appreciate it.

  10. Joan Celona Ricci July 13, 2015 at 3:06 pm - Reply

    Anita truly made a difference. What a wonderful profession she chose, enabling her to share her gifts with so many over the years. She was a treasure to students, family and friends. I missed her wake and funeral as my husband and I were traveling in Spain but I can see through your words that it was a very moving experience.

    • Ed July 13, 2015 at 7:42 pm - Reply

      Thank you, Joan.

  11. Michael Grilli July 13, 2015 at 5:10 pm - Reply


    She obviously was a great human being and lived a beautiful life. I know that all of you are left with wonderful memories of your time together. I am so sorry for your loss and want to offer my deepest sympathies to you and your family.


    • Ed July 13, 2015 at 7:41 pm - Reply

      Thank you, Mike. yes, a fine lady who touched many.

  12. Jimmy October 7, 2016 at 4:52 pm - Reply

    She was a Teacher at Lincoln when I knew her…..nice person…she certainly affected me in my early development. She was hipper than most.

    • Ed October 9, 2016 at 8:51 pm - Reply

      Thank you, Jimmy. A great lady

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